The Amazing THEBEATWITHKEY has created a new challenge for the blogging community. I am honored to take a part in this. The goal of this challenge is to change the world by breaking all stereotypes. Just one person alone cannot do this because unfortunately, there are a countless amount. There are racial stereotypes, beauty stereotypes, body stereotypes, mental health stereotypes and many more. Since it would be really hard for one blogger to tackle all of them by their self, lets decide to make it a challenge. Team up with other bloggers to break these stereotypes. Link to the site that challenges you and challenge five new bloggers to join in. When responding to this challenge the rules are simple. Non- WordPress bloggers can also get in on this. The rules will be at the bottom.
Thank you to Kathryn from https://letstalkdepress.com
Rule # 1-
Follow my blog
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Link this post in your response
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Write about a stereotype and how we can change it
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Challenge 5 other bloggers
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Always honor the creator of this challenge THEBEATWITHKEY
My Response: Breaking the stigma of depression
Robin Williams was funny, he made many laugh, he was in my opinion a lovable character. There’s been a study that many comedians suffer with depression. Maybe their salvation is making people laugh, helping people feel a sense of release from their sadness, knowing that if they feel deeply dark inside they can bring some light to others-Obviously I can’t speak for every comedian or how they feel, this is my speculation.
Since Robin Williams took his own life to depression it appears that this helped other celebrities come forward with their own difficulties, even Prince Harry spoke out.
In a paradoxical life, my daughter was beginning to develop a depressive nature during her time at secondary school. She decided to see the school Mentor, this mentor also saw other children, who would talk openly about their Mentor exercising the word ‘special’, meaning that they can go at a drop of a hat to be seen by the Mentor. This system led to some children feeling more vulnerable than others, where the ‘specials’ received special treatment, my daughter for example who was not a special was constantly pushed to the back of the queue, leaving her to feel worthless.
It seems, though interventions are being put in place and celebrities are speaking out or advocating for mental health and wellbeing, it is still not enough!
It feels even though celebrities have come forward to aid removing the stigma around depression, it has yet to actually make a shift in the pattern of thinking. Maybe people who suffer may come forward because of the news that more people suffer than we’re aware. However, it seems people who don’t suffer with depression have remained with the same negative attitude that depression is a weakness or that with a good and wealthy life someone should not be depressed; this is the stigma that we need to break.
Counselling, mentoring, coaching or any other therapeutic measure is of course a significant course to helping people overcome or manage such difficulties.
But why is it not enough
Depression and anxiety usually comes from a background of some sort of abuse, being overprotected as a child, loss, stress, attachment issues from a young age.
In order to help people we need to begin from an earlier age, to learn to be more self aware of our emotions, our behaviours and our surroundings, building these foundations will enable children to speak out when they feel their being wronged. I imagine if a child is being abused and at the same time being told “don’t tell anyone, this is our special time”, if the child has been taught to be self esteemed there may have more chance of saying “No, stop/I don’t like it”. When a child is smacked/beaten or verbally abused, the child can say “stop”.
From a young age we need to learn boundaries, compassion and some resilience. Learn to ask questions before putting a label on people. I heard it all In The playground when my children were young, parents would ask “what did your child get in their spelling test”, these comparisons go on in the class too. Children are looked down upon if their not high achievers or if their struggling. People from affluent areas look down at people in less fortunate circumstances. There is already less acceptance from different classes and cultures.
People/children are not educated about depression from an early age, therefore when the subject arises, it’s brief and has a negative connotation to it.
What can we do
It is very important to educate people and young ones from an early age about depression and how the brain is ultimately affected. What prevents or helps manage depression such as, regular exercise, healthy eating, staying hydrated, sufficient sleep.
Educate people around you, help people begin to understand, get them involved in a charity walk, that way they will talk about to to their friends
We could start of by building our little humans with basic foundations of;
Understanding Emotions and feelings
compassion and resilience
Asking questions and learning boundaries
Respect for self and others and self worth
Even better, how about including it into the National Curriculum with adaptations for different countries.
We can blame the government for restricting services, tightening budgets but until then we only have ourselves in which to make a difference.
If you need help, get it, no one can help you unless you want to help yourself. You need a support network, affiliate with people who understand you. Make a plan, ask for help. You’ll be surprised with how far you can come when you put something in place.
Last of all I am here-if you need help please reach out!
Inside everyone of us, we have an indomitable spirit. You own it, use it!
With all my love be and passion for helping
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Nominate 3 others to join the challenge